Mistakes parents make in child rearing

When both parents are working, their focus often revolves around work. Children who grow up in such an environment have a feeling that their parents are not paying attention to them.

1. More control

To sleep at a precise time every day means to wake up at a specific time every day. Parents should not impose strict restrictions on children’s daily habits, such as setting aside time to watch programs and studying at a certain time.

It should not be a habit of punishing children when they violate it. Those who raise children with such conditions are repressive parents.

There will be no love. They do not value children’s feelings and treat them like toys and try to bend them to their will. Such parents also expect their children to grow up according to their wishes.

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Children who grow up under oppression in this way start retaliating against the repressive nature of their parents during their teenage years. This will create serious problems within the family.

Some of them may be attracted by bad friends and fall into drug addiction. When teenagers, who have grown up with strict restrictions, are given freedom, they are boundless

They will try to enjoy freedom. These people who suddenly enjoy unlimited freedom may develop paradoxical habits like wandering around the town in the middle of the night, engaging in violent activities, and driving at high speeds. This may affect their future.

2. Carelessness

When both parents are working, their focus often revolves around work. So the children will be left in charge. Those children will grow up under the care of grandparents, relatives or servants.

From time to time they visit the children and give gifts, money etc. Children who grow up in such an environment have a feeling that their parents are not paying attention to them. Parents will feel neglected.

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These children who do not get parental love do not have a controlled lifestyle. Grandparents tend to bend to the whims of the children they raise. Therefore, such children have a tendency to be shy.

They use ’emotional blackmail’ to get what they want. Children learn most of life’s lessons from their parents when they are raised by them.

That biological knowledge is very important for children. Children who grow up with servants or others receive only half of such life lessons.

Children who do not receive full attention from their parents are more attracted to friends. The habits of friends will develop in them. Good friends are lucky.

Getting the wrong friends will drag them down a contradictory path.

3. Irresponsibility

Not all children’s activities should be priced. That means it is irresponsible to develop habits like giving chocolates for studying, buying new shoes for doing well in exams. If this condition persists, children will start asking for appropriate items for every activity they do. That would set the wrong precedent.

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Children should be made aware that ‘studying and writing exams is an activity that is done for the betterment of their future’. Only then will responsibility arise on them.

If children start working for available chocolates and shoes, it affects their future development.

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