The foundation we lay for children by age 6 will guide them throughout life. If parents realize this, they can implement better parenting.
It is the duty of parents to create a prosperous future for their children. In order to implement it, appropriate training should be provided to handle the challenges faced by today’s parents and improve the skills of the children.
Emotional Intelligence is the solution to the mental and physical challenges children face.
If parents of today are taught the tricks of raising children using this method, the world of tomorrow will be better.
90% of human brain development takes place in the first 6 years after birth. So the foundation we lay for children by age 6 will guide them throughout life. If parents realize this, they can implement better parenting.
Understand the individuality of children and guide them to grow up with self-confidence.
Parents want to say-
Nine out of ten Indian children are stressed, says a survey. It is very dangerous. In this type of situation, the attitude of parents who prepare their children just to score in the exam is wrong.
It is important to provide children with the knowledge and experience to properly prepare them for difficult situations. Many studies show that children who grow up with emotional intelligence do better in exams and in life. It is enough for every parent to understand this and act. Their children’s lives will be prosperous.
Many parents have started to think that spending time with their children is a happy event for the mind, and if they are alone for an hour to relax and relax, the mind will calm down.
Today, most families have only one child. Or at most two children.
This is why so many struggles. Not only that, no matter how much we try to cook and send the children to school, children who do not eat the whole thing and keep the leftovers, turn child rearing into an incomprehensible mystery.
On the other hand, more and more parents are struggling to get their children addicted to mobile and video games.
Well, I couldn’t help but think that the kids would be okay if they grew up a bit. Teens are even bigger problems.
Going out shopping with the kids means buying your favorite ice cream before you go shopping.
But, advise them not to ask for all the luxuries. If you prepare the children in this way and take them outside, the children will behave without stubbornness.
Parents should never fight in front of their children. When parents constantly fight in front of their children, the children are mentally traumatized and confused. They also isolate themselves from their parents.
Sharing the experience of a mother raising children
Of course, it was not so popular at the time. I’ve learned over time that sometimes, if we resist the flow of our lives, we begin to sink. A lot has to be given up on this journey. Be prepared for unexpected gifts. Be supportive of changes in your life. Others have seen this stage before you. Let them guide you.
As it happens, children grow up so fast. Sometimes, days seem endless, but looking back on life, even years seem like days.
Friends will join you again. Some of them will never change. So, even after years of no contact, I now know that some of my dearest friends are in the same restaurant sipping on the same favorite drink and talking about the same things we talked about before. Even though I haven’t been in touch for 16 years, they welcome me as if it’s only been 16 days.
In the early days, when we were young parents of two beautiful children, I was also working in a television channel that I loved very much. Children and my work loved me. However, I was not well. Something seemed not quite right. The confusion inside me was like a fog. I don’t know exactly how I’m going to handle all the good things in my life.
I had never felt so alone in my life till then. But loneliness is not the whole truth. Our life was full of shouting. Party noise, workplace noise, traffic noise. And then when I’m with the kids, another sound is running through my head.
I was caught up in the urban myth of the ‘super mom’. Everything was fine. But it seemed like there was no one to listen to my condition. I want to be happy. But, I felt really bad.
Parenting was a test of my integrity. Was I willing to be honest with myself? I don’t have much practice in it. I always found it easy to be honest with friends, events of the day, TV shows and gadgets. I know how to be cool and be admired by others. Now I must return to my reality.
I must first learn to listen to my inner voice. We can only raise our children well if we first raise ourselves well. OK for adults too; This also applies to children. You should sleep at the right time, eat well and do some exercise every day. Getting stuck in heavy traffic should not be a habit.
You want to make your inner child happy. Love it and appreciate it. If the parents are happy children, the children will be happy. Conversely I discovered that if a child wasn’t happy, I could definitely tell that I wasn’t right.
When children discover something, they often share what they learned from it with us. “When mom is sad, he’s sad. But when dad’s sad, he’s angry,” Sahar, our first child, told her father one day. This made her father very resilient. He shared the matter with his friends. Some of them seemed irritated by this insight of a child.
At the same time, Alisa discovers the key to happiness. Every now and then, she would jump up behind me and gesture with a key on my back to open it. “Here, I’ve unlocked the key, now be happy,” she would command.
I couldn’t help but take off whatever mask I was wearing and surrender to her guileless act.
I will say that being a parent is weird. But we all know that it takes a lot of hard work to create peace in our lives. Confusion is easy. One often has to walk difficult paths to find it calm. Every family’s path is unique. We need endurance to reach a place where we can rest well and breathe deeply.
Parenting demands that our presence is greater than our absence. It’s easy to get lost at work, and it’s even easier to get stuck in traffic every day. Parents love Mondays.
If you work at home, you have to send your children to school. If you work outside the home, you need to prepare yourself. Monday is a secret Saturday for parents of young children.
Ultimately, our children will pass on to each other what they have received from us. I’ve learned to accept my imperfections and celebrate what I excel at. A balanced diet bored me. But, I take very good photos.
So I do it. When we want to eat good food, we go to the dosa shop in the local market. Other days, we eat momos and snacks. But, I create photos with my own hands. They have provided such wonderful moments, if only good food was cooked.
When our first daughter Sahar was young, she used to say, “I like grandma’s rajma, sister’s roti, mom’s maggi.
I am learning to receive compliments and love. I begin to believe my child’s words.
I realized that she was important to me. “You matter, you matter,” I tell myself. Only then will I teach my children that they matter to them.
I listen to my inner voice. I hear the children talking. I don’t answer my ringing phone. When there is a problem with our needs we talk and find a solution. They are fair.
Children remind us of how we were in the beginning. They remind me of how we can be and how we can redeem myself. My second daughter, Alisa, once said gently, “I already know everything. But you’re forgetting some things, Mom.